Dawn Lupul – Page 27 – Holistic Health Coach

November 15, 2019November 14, 2019

New Beginnings

A beautiful and stormy day in Puerto Rico – never the same from one moment to the next

Change is scary. Leaving a job, moving, ending a relationship, the death of someone close to you – all of these are major life events.

Even looking in the mirror as you begin to get a little older can be jarring. Suddenly you see things that weren’t there before, like new wrinkles, or dark spots, or perhaps less hair than you remember having.

On a daily basis there are reminders that nothing ever stays the same. It is the roller-coaster existence that we are all on.

When things are going great, eventually they will turn the other way. It is inevitable. And just as certainly, when things aren’t going well something will happen that turns the tide in the other direction.

November 14, 2019November 14, 2019

Keeping Your Power Within

Lake Ontario is as beautiful as any other large body of water – just a little colder

I walked alone for hundreds of hours on many different beaches over the last few years. I didn’t listen to music or talk to anyone; I just walked in silence, watching nature and meditating.

There was a rhythm that I tuned into, a flow of life that was unmistakeable. We are part of that rhythm but we are so busy all of the time that we fail to notice it.

Birth, life, death. It’s pretty simple really. We come into the physical world, we have all of our hopes and dreams and expectations, we participate in life, and then we are gone.

Walking in cemeteries is another thing I like to do. When you live in a big city it can be the only truly quiet place that is available. It’s also a great place to reflect. Who were these people when they were alive? What were their stories? Did they have wonderful lives, or difficult ones?

We aren’t taught the joy of living when we are young. There are too many important things to learn, like fitting in, how to read and write, learning what your place is in life. The pursuit of joy is not a consideration for most of us.

November 13, 2019November 13, 2019

Single-Mindedness

Clarity and focus – we see this in nature all of the time. This pineapple will never turn into an orange – it knows only one thing

If there was one secret to success, I think it might be the ability to focus 100% of your intention on a desired outcome.

If you can achieve a state where you know exactly what you want, and you then move forward with this goal firmly in your mind, there is likely nothing you can’t accomplish.

If you could see a glimpse of the future, and you saw that you were working in the field you want to be in, or you were living in a certain house or with a specific type of partner, and you absolutely knew that this was your destiny, would you not be able to move forward confidently with no doubt as to the eventual outcome?

If you believe it then you can see it. Then you can make it happen.

If you can resist attaching negative emotion to an unintended result you have produced that you might label a failure, then with crystal-clear clarity you can learn from what occurred and refine your process.

November 12, 2019November 11, 2019

Whoever Hurt You Isn’t Here Anymore

You can walk a path with friends, but truly we always walk alone. Somewhere in Costa Rica…

So many of us carry the hurts and injustices of the past into our present reality. Much of who we are today was shaped by events that happened long ago, usually when we were too young to control anything around us.

Some of us grew up in abusive homes, where there was no love and no comfort. It is extremely difficult to come out of a situation like that and not carry the emotional scars that go with it.

Others of us were much more fortunate, coming from a loving environment where we were made to feel wanted and special. That contributes to who we think that we are, and thus how we carry ourselves in the world now.

This is why it is so important not to quickly pass judgment on others. It is impossible to know exactly what anyone dealt with during the formative years. They may be products of a very unhappy past.

November 11, 2019November 11, 2019

Feel What You Feel

Stormy or calm, the ocean expresses itself in every moment. A beautiful morning surf in Barbados

It seems like we spend a lot of time trying to censor our feelings, putting on a brave face to present to the world with the hopes that no one will notice what is really going on.

It’s the way we are brought up to be. As a child you struggle to deal with so many things, but when you express your frustration in a very loud way you are disciplined to learn to keep it in.

Children should be seen and not heard. Big boys don’t cry. Good girls shouldn’t scream. Go to your room and don’t come out until you can act like something different than who you are right now.

It’s all well-meant. These bits of guidance we receive from the adults around us help mold us to fit in. To function in society as what is considered normal necessitates us to be quiet, to use our indoor voices, and not to have tantrums in public.

November 10, 2019November 9, 2019

Assuming Your Identity

Mini was the smallest in the barn, but he also ruled the place. He had the right attitude!

We talk about not judging others, but it isn’t always practical in the real world. When someone walks into a room, within seconds you form a picture of who you think they are.

This is useful on many levels, mostly for safety. If someone comes in your proximity and they could threaten you in some way, it is good to be able to sense this in advance. Sometimes those feelings we get about others can save us some problems, whether they are immediate ones or not.

What are these judgments based on though? What is it about a person that allows us to form opinions about who they are and what they could mean to us without even talking to them?

November 9, 2019November 8, 2019

Today Is the Day

Someone decided to build the CN Tower years ago. Turned out to be a great idea

This isn’t just another day. At least, it doesn’t have to be.

Today can be the day that changes everything. It can be the day you look back at as the moment when you took control of life.

In this moment you can decide to support who you want to be and stop fighting it. You have the power to do it; it all begins with a single decision.

What is the one thing that you want more than anything else that you keep putting off?

Fear is the reason we don’t move forward. Feeling safe with the known, we don’t allow ourselves to explore, to dream and become bigger and better than we already are.

We get very good at making excuses. We decide that we are too old, or that all of the good jobs are taken, or there are no good single people left to meet.

November 8, 2019November 7, 2019

Just Let Go

They don’t care what you believe. They are just being swans because that’s all they know

We all have opinions. They are formed over a lifetime, and they change and adjust as we go along. New evidence comes into our awareness and the opinions we once held so tightly to don’t make sense anymore. Then we get new ones and cling to those.

People fight to prove that their opinion is the right one. Wars are started over opinions, and marriages end because the need to be right seems far more important than the need to get along.

One person believes strongly in something, knowing that it is the truth. Another person believes in the opposite, knowing that it is the truth.

So what is the truth?

And who gets to decide what the truth is?

November 7, 2019November 6, 2019

Sailing Smoothly Through Life

You can sail wherever you wish to go. It all begins with a decision

Take a moment and describe yourself. What kind of words spring to mind? Are you intelligent, hard-working, angry, peaceful, successful, stifled, or fulfilled? There are seemingly endless adjectives that you can use to label who you think you are.

Some people find this exercise easy to do. Others not as much. If you are proud of who you think you are, then it is probably much easier to say I am successful, appreciated, ambitious and loved.

If you are feeling not so proud of who you are and where your life is right now, then this may be more difficult. Or you may be overly cruel.

November 6, 2019November 5, 2019

The Reconstruction of You

Habits are built just like muscle – through work and repetition. Build yourself the way you want to be!

We are bombarded by so much information every day that we are actually only able to process a small part of it. If we tried to make sense of everything we would quickly succumb to sensory overload and be unable to function.

As it is, by the end of the day we have sorted through so much input and made so many decisions that it becomes difficult to keep making good choices. We can feel a bit overwhelmed and that is when our bad habits like to creep in.

We tend to resort to the path of least resistance. There is comfort in the familiar, whether it is good for us or not.