Winners win and losers lose. It seems like a harsh statement, but it is a truth.
People who expect to win do. They have an inner strength of conviction that makes failure quite impossible.
Now winning doesn’t have to mean being rich, or living in a fancy house and driving one of your ten fancy cars. Winning is something very personal that only you can define.
In fact, many people who have accumulated physical riches are unhappy and unfulfilled. They pursued the external wealth with no regard for cultivating the inner riches.
They are literally poor on the inside.
I think that winning is being able to move through life as a pleasant individual, unfazed by what happens in the outer world while maintaining a sense of peace and calmness in every moment.
If something happens that needs to be dealt with, it is taken care of in the moment. There is no energy wasted worrying or creating worst-case scenarios in the mind.
Winners look at situations and see how they can benefit from them. The thought of failure is never entertained.
I have spoken to many very successful people and one thing stands out to me – they all use powerful words. There is no wishing or hoping, there is instead a certainty or a declaration of their expectations.
They speak with confidence and that is manifested in their physical reality.
Weak words have no energy behind them. They don’t inspire you to take action or to keep going when things get challenging. They actually give you an excuse not to try your best.
All any of us can expect from ourselves is to do our best in every moment. It is amazing how few people actually expect at least that from themselves.
There are more people who are content to blame circumstances outside of their control for the lack that is in their lives. It is the fault of the economy, the current government, society, the tax department, or any number of other evil entities that prevent them from living a life of bliss.
It is the ultimate way to let yourself off the hook and to relieve you from any feeling that you should put in any effort whatsoever. Why try when you will only fail?
And yet there is a perverse satisfaction in knowing that you could have done much better, that you didn’t actually do your best. There is a pleasure in this because it allows you to keep a sense of dignity that if you cared enough to try, you could do anything you want.
Insane, isn’t it?
Why accept a life of less than it can be? Why give your power away that could give you everything you want, and the ability to feel blessed and content in every moment?
Listen to how you talk to yourself and to others. Find the moments when you say you wish things were different, or you hope that something happens so you can maybe get what you want.
Lose the weak words and replace them with strength. Know that you will accomplish something. Know that you will do whatever it takes to get what you want.
There is no such thing as failure, just results produced that may not be as intended. Learn, make adjustments, and continue forward. Don’t let yourself off the hook.
At the end of each day as you lay down to sleep, if you can say you did your best then you will find a peace within that is indescribable. That is my definition of success.