Reflect on where you are and where you need to go. It all begins with a decision
When things aren’t going well it is easy to get discouraged and want to give up. Once you feel overwhelmed it becomes impossible to see anything clearly. Problems look enormous and unmanageable and you begin to feel small and helpless.
It’s difficult to feel good about anything when you feel like you are being squashed by the heaviness of your life.
Inertia and procrastination do nothing to fix things. When you get stuck and can’t see a way out, no amount of affirmations or attempts at positive thinking will help. The way out is to do something that gets you moving in any direction. It’s a good time to break down the problems into segments and then start to deal with them one at a time.
Before the show begins – focus!! Me and Cory Woron getting ready for a broadcast – Photo Will Wong
Trying to do multiple things at the same time just doesn’t work for me. I find that the more I try to do, the less I actually get done and whatever I do accomplish doesn’t seem to get done very well.
There are certain things that I consider to be vital to my life. Exercise is a big one. I know that when I’m not moving around enough I don’t feel that great. It’s become a part of my routine, no different than brushing my teeth or having breakfast or sitting and writing. None of these things are crucial to my survival, but they became part of my routine because they make me feel better.
Maybe brushing my teeth is crucial, I don’t know. It seems that my ancestors from hundreds of years ago did okay with no fancy toothpaste or electric brushes. Anyways, I choose to brush.
Believe in yourself, and accept support from others
I remember doing a motivational talk to a group of young girls, all from impoverished homes, some not having families at all. Most of what I was saying was falling on deaf ears – they just weren’t resonating with me.
Then I said this and every one of them stopped and stared.
I said, “If you don’t believe in you, why would anyone else?”
Something about that simple sentence sunk through, ringing like a bell in their disillusioned young minds. It had an impact because it is true.
Whatever you choose to do in life, you need to have the conviction that you can do it. It’s far beyond “Fake it until you make it”.
It’s more like, “The reason I want to do this is because deep within I have the skills and talent to pull it off. I know I can and I know I will”.
To have that clarity of conviction puts you in unstoppable mode. And that is what it takes to succeed – the decision to keep working until you get there.
I firmly believe that failure doesn’t exist. You can produce results which were not originally intended, but then you learn from that and make adjustments. And repeat. And repeat.
Failure only happens when you stop trying.
Sometimes you get into the journey and decide that you want to try something different. Nothing goes to waste – you are clarifying and adjusting your intention. This is how you discover exactly what it is that you do want.
By believing in yourself and doing what is necessary, the talents and skills that only you possess will shine through.
That is the best way to make a living, and the best way to live a life.
