When did I get to be so bossy?
I heard myself telling someone what they absolutely had to do to lose weight, to feel better, to live a much more fantastic life like I was, and then it hit me…
I was acting like a preacher and I never wanted to be one!
The truth is, everyone is unique, as different as a snowflake, and there is no one-size-fits-all plan. Especially when it comes to physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
I’m not you, you’re not me, and that is how it’s meant to be.
So why do we fall into the trap of believing that when we solve our own problems, we have uncovered the secrets of the universe, the Holy Grail, the “this will work for everyone in the world because I discovered it and it works for me!” mindset?
For me it was because after years of suffering, I finally found some things that worked. I know what it’s like to feel sick, to suffer from pain, indigestion, insomnia, and to just not feel well. Through years of studying, trying different things, and remembering what worked and what didn’t, I was able to get through all of the tough times and come out on the other side feeling good.
So naturally I wanted to share this information with the world, to tell people that all they had to do was live like me and they would be healed!
Idealistic, yes. Annoying – absolutely.
I came to a sobering realization. In my overzealousness and manic enthusiasm, I was alienating people. Much like myself, no one likes to be told what to do.
Especially when it comes to something so personal like eating habits and exercise routines.
The truth was, I needed to remember that most of the things I tried through the years were things that other people had suggested to me, things they swore would work. Unfortunately, I found out that a lot of them didn’t work for me.
You’ve likely found this out for yourself. You get reeled in by promises that this program will be different, that just eating this and that, and not that and this is the secret to success. So you try it, and – it doesn’t work!! Then you are left to wonder if there is something wrong with you.
There is something wrong with you – you aren’t listening to your own inner wisdom and finding out what works for you. This is the secret. You are a unique, beautiful individual, and you need to discover your own truth.
So now here I am, happy, healthy and enjoying how tremendously good life can be when I feel good. I am sharing how my journey led me to this place, but I do so knowing that some of what helped me will not be a fit for you.
But that’s okay because some of it might work. Through hearing the stories of others, we are able to set out on a course of our own. This is how we begin to discover how to heal, and how to be whole.
Then you can share what worked for you!