Sometimes things just seem so clear. When it is someone else’s situation, it is so easy to know exactly what they are doing wrong and how they can fix it.
When it comes to ourselves, though, it is a different story.
The funny thing is, we all need to make our own decisions and learn from the consequences. If someone is constantly telling us what we should do and how we should act, then the valuable lessons are never received.
Parents do this with children, and for the most part it is necessary. Trying to limit the amount of physical harm they do to themselves is good parenting, but at the same time lessons can be learned much more quickly when some things are allowed to happen.
As in, you only touch a hot stove once.
There does come a time when we need to learn things for ourselves. Constantly seeking the advice of others can actually be a form of procrastination. It isn’t always possible to know all sides of the situation before you have to act.
That is where learning to listen to your own intuition comes in handy. Trust the inner guidance and know that you are receiving whatever you need in the moment.
Allowing yourself to make mistakes and then learning from them is all part of the process of growing on this physical plane. For every action there is a result, whether or not it is a desired one. Once the result is accepted, then there is the ability to refine the action and move forward.
This pattern of taking action, noticing the results, and then taking more action is how we can accomplish anything in life. Accepting that nothing needs to unfold in a linear pattern is freeing, and not judging the entire process is crucial.
We act, we notice, and then we adjust and act again. It doesn’t need to be more difficult than that.
It does seem easier to come up with the answers to someone else’s problems when they are attempting to do something . This meddling in their journey may ultimately not be productive for them though, and it takes us away from tending to our own business.
If someone asks for advice, if you have direct knowledge of what they are trying to do then you can perhaps share what worked for you. Otherwise, it is best to allow them to move ahead as they see fit.
Encourage others, and yourself, to access the guidance within to refine the process. And allow everyone, including yourself, to make mistakes. A mistake is just a result that wasn’t initially intended, but it is the best learning tool out there.
So go ahead, take action and make lots of mistakes. That means that you are actually doing something, and through all of it you will eventually find the path that works.
In the meantime, don’t stick the fork in the wall socket. That one is definitely something you won’t do twice.